tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post5658874111218181407..comments2024-03-24T09:22:58.494+00:00Comments on Country Rose: A very tiring day and a birthday gift finished ready to give away.Country Rosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03322288283634034259noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-60964839829168688862011-06-28T21:46:44.653+01:002011-06-28T21:46:44.653+01:00I reckon everyone does their fair share of things ...I reckon everyone does their fair share of things they know are probably(?) not the way to go but you sort of fall into them - I rock Mabel to sleep in her pram every day, sometimes it takes me ages and I do think, "what the hell am I doing" but then continue anyway!!<br />There is something in it about babies being 'ready' I think. I tried to get her to fall asleep in her cot on her own for ages and she was having none of it. Then suddenly she seemed to reach a stage where she was o.k, I wished I hadn't given myself such a headache about it at the time. So my advice (though I do agree with the other comments that there is no such thing as a 'right way', every baby is different and you are in no way a bad mother. oh and also I am probably in no place to give out such advice since I am honestly 'played' by our 5 month old daily) would be to try again in a week or so just to put her down when semi asleep but not over tired and she might surprise you. Sometimes Mabel will stay awake 'babbling' for up to half an hour and I almost nightly go up with the guilt I have abandoned her for so long but actually I think she does just like some quiet time? And if it doesn't work, don't give yourself a hard time, just go with whatever you need to do to get her to sleep happy and you downstairs with a glass of wine! And just think, at least your not spending up to an hour a day pushing a pram back and forwards in a kitchen!<br />Sorry long comment there,<br />Nelly xxxNellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17771150337345711564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-65961084314708510702011-06-26T22:16:50.266+01:002011-06-26T22:16:50.266+01:00I can't give you any advice from experience of...I can't give you any advice from experience of mothering because I don't have children but what I can say is all of my friends have children, as does my sis, and not one of them does the same thing as each other. They all have their own ways that they've settled into and that are right for them. I think you have a beautiful baby, she always looks very happy and you will do what's right for you. Which means it will be right for Rose. Try not to worry about what you 'should' be doing. And if all else fails, I reckon a drop of whisky. For both of you ;-)<br /><br />Love the crochet, it's fab. So you embroider too? I have a question for you... There was a pretty embroidery pattern in Mollie Makes this month. I did embroidery when I was a child but the fabric already had the pattern on it... What's the best way to get the pattern onto the fabric to copy? Trace with a fabric pen? I'd love to have a go at embroidery again.<br /><br />Nicki xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06569770144344942918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-33993959654631170262011-06-26T21:05:07.714+01:002011-06-26T21:05:07.714+01:00Hi - I saw your link on Crochet with Raymond and p...Hi - I saw your link on Crochet with Raymond and popped in to say hello. I'm in West Sussex too :) <br /><br />Cute crochet! <br /><br />As far as babies are concerned, I wouldn't normally comment and wouldn't ever criticise what someone else does or try to force my opinion on someone, but as you asked for input I'll say this. I strongly believe that a happy baby makes a happy mum and vice versa. I don't know who decided a baby "should" be able to sleep alone at a certain point on a calendar - I just know that she will... one day... when SHE is ready. I feel that the the prevalent "should" culture places a lot of unfair pressure on parents (esp first time) and in turn on babies and is makes people deny their natural instincts, which is actually what makes them feel 'bad', unhappy or stressed out. <br /><br />Trust yourself - listen to your heart. Please don't feel you ever have to apologise for how you choose to do that - have faith in yourself - you are the perfect mother for your little one. Feeding your baby to sleep is the most natural, wonderful, comforting thing you could do for her if that is what she needs. Being there for her when she needs you, allowing her to spend her energy on growing and developing and not worrying where she is or you are. She won't want you to be there forever. <br /><br />Enjoy your baby. She'll be grown before you know it and you'll look back on these wonderful moments and wish you could have them back for even a second longer. I don't think you've been "soft" and breastfeeding isn't the "easy option" - you are simply doing what BILLIONS of loving mothers have done and will do - because it's what's natural. Do what you feel is right for you and your baby. (And don't worry what anyone else thinks!) <br /><br />Wishing you a restful evening. <br />xxxxSarah ~ Crafts from the Cwtchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04185079470901101913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-57473849576546353312011-06-26T20:25:54.378+01:002011-06-26T20:25:54.378+01:00ps Gorgeous crochet!ps Gorgeous crochet!Cuckoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00873833055446436983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-65533546505591152902011-06-26T20:25:35.435+01:002011-06-26T20:25:35.435+01:00I can't give you any advice even though I have...I can't give you any advice even though I have 3 children and none were "good" sleepers. I have tried every trick in the book. In the end I had to leave them to cry it out. I was exhausted. I remember the night I left Little (then 10 monhs) in a cot in the playroom at 11pm and I then went to bed and set my alarm for 6am. I was terrified I'd find a snotty, hiccuping, hysterical baby when I woke. But he slept for a further hour and woke up smiling at me. I've no idea if he sobbed all night long. I just know I needed to get some sleep. I know I'll need to do the same with Mini soon, but I'm not quite brave enough and haven't tried every trick yet.<br /><br />But good luck to you, it's all about surviving the day with little 'uns. Do what you are comfortable with, you'll only feel upset otherwise. She's your baby, trust your instincts x x xCuckoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00873833055446436983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-34903645838599990632011-06-26T16:30:51.902+01:002011-06-26T16:30:51.902+01:00I think the purse is beautiful and I love the colo...I think the purse is beautiful and I love the colours. You have done a great job.<br />I think us Mums feel guilty sometimes when we are doing a good job. I have sung my daughter to sleep, cuddled her to sleep and let her sleep with me when she wakes in the night crying. Only recently have I put her to sleep in the cot to fall asleep on her own!<br /> I would say do what feels right for you. I was in a children's home when I was a baby and I think noone ever can have too much love. I think what you are doing now is fab. You sound very caring and loving and you only need to change things if it would work better for you. We are told so many different things by books and 'experts' but you know best as her mummy.<br />TracyTracy Gloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01241249836621046253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-79292125767689898992011-06-26T11:51:35.575+01:002011-06-26T11:51:35.575+01:00Ash, I did the same thing with my first born, then...Ash, I did the same thing with my first born, then it sort of slips by the wayside when the next one comes along, because you just don't have the time and the next one just seems to be easier in that respect. Most importanly you are giving your gorgeous Rose lots of love, so go you. Love your Nan's little purse and dahlia, very pretty color. I have that book, must make one of the purses, they are very sweet. Love your lining.<br />x Sandisandiarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06395329327447746029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-76087746754921244292011-06-26T00:34:19.912+01:002011-06-26T00:34:19.912+01:00Yep< that i the book. May I have a look next t...Yep< that i the book. May I have a look next time you're down? Will post up your new one xx<br /><br />GO TO BED!!!!Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05918092647201479349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144024816579178123.post-17472966924782123802011-06-25T23:58:10.174+01:002011-06-25T23:58:10.174+01:00Firstly there is NOTHING wrong with your mothering...Firstly there is NOTHING wrong with your mothering skills. We all do it Ash, until...... we change out routine, because it is what we choose to do rather then we are told to do it. Is is fine to change Rose's routine now and see how it goes, do the same as you did in the day time with her naps, a bit at a time and she will soon get used to a different night time routine. You are a fantastic Mum< and should be very prod how you have so far raised your beautiful daughter.<br /><br />Nan's Birthday gift is lovely, she'll love it.<br /><br />Which book is that? sounds like the one I was looking at in Waterstone's the other day but resisted (as I thought you'd have it and I could borrow it actually xx)Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05918092647201479349noreply@blogger.com